Tools can help you recover or make things worse. It depends on how you use them. This is the plain guide for anyone with a massage gun, foam roller, or a stray ball hiding under the sofa. Start with the rule of three: pressure, pace, position. Pressure: stop the second a muscle tenses against you. … Read more

I like tools that fit in a pocket. These five take a minute or less, no mat, no special app, and you can do them in jeans with a coffee going cold on the counter. Try one. If it helps, keep it. First, what we’re calming Your vagus nerve is part of the body’s “rest-and-digest” … Read more

You don’t need a full spa day to feel human again. Pick one of these, set a timer, and let your body downshift. 1) Two-minute face wake-upWarm your hands. Glide from the centre of the chin to the ears, sides of the nose to the temples, then brows to hairline. Three slow passes per line. … Read more

I kept telling myself I’d have a bath and a revelation. I have neither the tub nor the energy. What I do have at 21:00 is a sink that drips, a brain that won’t, and a small stash of things I promised would “live in the bathroom basket.” Tonight I finally used them like a … Read more

There are nights when I’ve tried everything — no screens, slow breaths, legs up the wall — and my body’s still buzzing like I drank six espressos and a guilt smoothie. That’s when I fill the sink. Herbal steam is one of those old tricks that looks ridiculous when you explain it but actually works … Read more

I don’t always notice I’m holding tension — until I try to look over my shoulder and feel like a robot with a broken neck joint. The laptop hunch. The phone scroll. The weird way I hold my jaw when I’m trying not to scream. It adds up. And sometimes, yeah, a massage would be … Read more

Some mornings I wake up and think, today I’ll have a moment to myself. And then it’s 9pm and I’ve been talked at, leaned on, emailed, reminded, overstimulated, and I can’t even remember if I ate lunch or just stood near food. So yeah — sacred space. That sounded like a joke at first. But … Read more

I don’t do this every night. Sometimes I forget. Or can’t be arsed. Or the towel smells weird and I bail. But when I do — when I actually set five, ten minutes aside — my skin thanks me by not freaking out the next morning. And I remember I have a face. A real … Read more

You ever been to a lovely shop on your high street and bought baskets full of lovely looking stuff that you can just imagine yourself using after work, at bedtime or at weekends to help you just let go, relax and forget about daily life, even just for half an hour? Yep, me too. Or … Read more

Massage therapy isn’t some modern miracle. We didn’t invent the idea of relaxing hard and coming back to life with fewer knots than a sailor’s rope bag. Humans have been working this magic for thousands of years, and what’s wild is how many of those old rituals still work better than half the stuff sold … Read more

You know the ones. The big ones. The ones with scented corridors and receptionists who speak in lowercase. “Can I offer you an infusion?” they whisper, and you’re not sure if they mean tea or a religious experience. Everything beige. Everything folded. Nobody laughs. This is not that. We started Mili because we were a … Read more

You ever get that thing where your shoulders are basically earrings? Like, up so high they’re practically whispering into your earlobes? Yeah. That. People think stress lives in the mind but no — it squats in the body. Sets up camp in the neck, throws a party behind the knees, leaves emotional debris in the … Read more

It started with the wrist. A dull throb just under the surface of the skin—like the hum of an old fluorescent light. I knew that pain. It had been my early warning bell for years, long before I ever named what it was: stress, pushing too hard, too fast, too much. Then came the dizziness. … Read more

It happened the first time I said no to a work dinner. I was still working in HR back then, burnt out and brittle, clinging to the scraps of my energy like they were pearls. My boss raised an eyebrow and said, “But you’re so good with people.” As if that was reason enough to ignore the … Read more

Eighteen months ago, burnout flipped my world upside down. I had to walk away from the high-pressure corporate job I’d spent over a decade building. It wasn’t easy, but I took a remote HR role that gave me something I hadn’t had in years—flexibility. My husband Paul, a private pilot, had always been on the … Read more

This blog is for the doers. The ones juggling careers, kids, relationships, and about a thousand other things at once. Women like me, who need real, actionable ways to put themselves first without dropping the ball.  And listen—I don’t just talk about action. I live it.  Let me tell you a story…  I met my … Read more

Rest doesn’t come naturally to me. In my corporate role, 50- and 60-hour weeks were normal. Breakfast, lunch, and supper? All at my desk. I have fallen asleep at my desk accidentally more times than I can count—head on my keyboard, in the middle of a project. That culture doesn’t leave much room for pause, … Read more

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